One of the things I've learned over the last half-dozen years is to deliberately care-less.
That's NOT the same as being careless.
It's NOT the same as caring less.
What it is:
It is choosing to NOT care about MOST things.
That choice frees space for me to only care - much more - about a few important things.
I'm 47 now. I only learned this skill during my 40s.
I learned it by caring too much, for too long, about things that probably didn't matter and, even if they did, no matter how much I cared, I couldn't do anything to change them.
I learned it by suffering.
It's nice, now, to smile and shrug as I don't
- try to boil the ocean, and I do
- try to achieve good-enough, rather than perfection, and when I
- spend time figuring out what's important, so I can chase it, rather than the urgent.
None of this is new.
Caring too much causes pain and frustration.