Yesterday, I wrote about how snakes grow until their skin constrains them, and then they shed it to keep growing.
I love the idea that you and I also grow into our skins.
That’s how we grow up:
- By growing into our skins.
Telling someone to “grow up” is an insult.
A verbal slap in the face.
"You're acting like a child"
Helping someone grow into their skin, on the other hand, is positive and productive.
"You're almost there ... would you like a hand?"
This tiny rewording flipped a little switch in my mind that made it easier for me to help others.
It helped me grow up!
It's a tiny but generous reframing ... and it costs nothing.
Take care, and, please leave a comment or hit reply, and have a lovely day!
Clarke
P.s. I turned 55 over the weekend and I'm still figuring out what I want to do when I'm a “grown-up”. How about you?
